Thursday, 21 September 2017

Why Mr Narendra Modi our life line. Forget economics

 Blog courtesy Geert Wilders

This blog specially dedicated to leaders like Mamta Banerjee and Human Rights fake organisations

You must be having lot of complaints against Mr Narendra Modi( Although long term you will realise how good these changes are) you cannot deny what will happen to India if we have Rahul or Arvind Kejriwal in majority. We will be another Islamic state

WHAT IS TRUE FOR EUROPE IS VERY MUCH SO FOR INDIA, and the other way around too, as EU was made to be like the INDian Union, and they are 2 generations behind us but interestingly they are on par with us their current experiences of what home grown & imported ‘’Semitic – monotheistic – fundamentalist – absolutist – ideology -monochrome – dogmatic – religious & religions’’ do over a period.

In a generation or two, the US will ask itself: "Who lost Europe?" Here is the speech of Geert Wilders, Chairman, Party for Freedom the Netherlands, at the Four Seasons in New York, introducing an Alliance of Patriots and announcing the Facing Jihad Conference in Jerusalem ..


You have seen the landmarks. But in these cities, sometimes a few blocks away from your tourist destination, there is another world. It is the world of the parallel society created by Muslim mass-migration.

All throughout Europe a new reality is rising: entire Muslim neighbourhoods where very few indigenous people reside or are even seen. And if they are, they might regret it. This goes for the police as well. It is the world of head scarves, where women walk around in figureless tents, with baby strollers and a group of children. Their husbands, or slaveholders if you prefer, walk three steps ahead. With mosques on many street corners. The shops have signs you and I cannot read. You will be hard-pressed to find any economic activity. These are Muslim ghettos controlled by religious


Dear friends,
Thank you very much for inviting me.

I come to America with a mission. All is not well in the old world. There is a tremendous danger looming, and it is very difficult to be optimistic. We might be in the final stages of the Islamization of Europe. This not only is a clear and present danger to the future of Europe itself, it is a threat to America and the sheer survival of the West. The United States as the last bastion of Western civilization, facing an Islamic Europe.

First, I will describe the situation on the ground in Europe. Then, I will say a few things about Islam. To close I will tell you about a meeting in Jerusalem.

The Europe you know is changing.

You have seen the landmarks. But in these cities, sometimes a few blocks away from your tourist destination, there is another world. It is the world of the parallel society created by Muslim mass-migration.

All throughout Europe a new reality is rising: entire Muslim neighbourhoods where very few indigenous people reside or are even seen. And if they are, they might regret it. This goes for the police as well. It is the world of head scarves, where women walk around in figureless tents, with baby strollers and a group of children. Their husbands, or slaveholders if you prefer, walk three steps ahead. With mosques on many street corners. The shops have signs you and I cannot read. You will be hard-pressed to find any economic activity. These are Muslim ghettos controlled by religious fanatics. These are Muslim neighbourhoods, and they are mushrooming in every city across Europe. These are the building-blocks for territorial control of increasingly larger portions of Europe, street by street, neighbourhood by neighbourhood, city by city.

There are now thousands of mosques throughout Europe. With larger congregations than there are in churches. And in every European city there are plans to build super-mosques that will dwarf every church in the region. The signal is: we rule.

Many European cities are already one-quarter Muslim: just take Amsterdam, Marseille, and Malmo in Sweden. In many cities, the majority of the under-18 population is Muslim. A ring of Muslim neighbourhoods now surrounds Paris. Mohammed is the most popular name among boys in many cities.

In some elementary schools in Amsterdam the farm can no longer be mentioned, because that would also mean mentioning the pig, and that would be an insult to Muslims.

Many state schools in Belgium and Denmark only serve halal food to all pupils. In once-tolerant Amsterdam gays are beaten up exclusively by Muslims. Non-Muslim women routinely hear 'whore, whore'. Satellite dishes are not pointed to local TV stations, but to stations in the country of origin.

In France school teachers are advised to avoid authors deemed offensive to Muslims, including Voltaire and Diderot; the same is increasingly true of Darwin The history of the Holocaust can no longer be taught because of Muslim sensitivity.

In England sharia courts are now officially part of the British legal system. Many neighbourhoods in France are no-go areas for women without head scarves. Last week a man almost died after being beaten up by Muslims in Brussels, because he was drinking during the Ramadan.

Jews are fleeing France in record numbers, on the run for the worst wave of anti-Semitism since World War II. French is now commonly spoken on the streets of Tel Aviv and Netanya, Israel ... I could go on forever with stories like this. Stories about Islamization.

A total of fifty-four million Muslims now lives. San Diego University recently calculated that a staggering 25 percent of the population in Europe will be Muslim just12 years from now. Bernhard Lewis has predicted a Muslim majority by the end of this century.

Now these are just numbers. And the numbers would not be threatening if the Muslim-immigrants had an ardent desire to assimilate. But there are few signs of that. The Pew Research Center reported that half of French Muslims see their loyalty to Islam as greater than their loyalty to France ... One-third of French Muslims do not object to suicide attacks. The British Centre for Social Cohesion reported that one-third of British Muslim students are in favour of a worldwide caliphate. Muslims demand what they call 'respect'. And this is how we give them respect. We have Muslim official state holidays.

The Christian-Democratic attorney general is willing to accept sharia in the Netherlands if there is a Muslim majority. We have cabinet members with passports from Morocco and Turkey ...

Muslim demands are supported by unlawful behaviour, ranging from petty crimes and random violence, for example against ambulance workers and bus drivers, to small-scale riots. Paris has seen its uprising in the low-income suburbs, the banlieues. I call the perpetrators 'settlers'. Because that is what they are. They do not come to integrate into our societies; they come to integrate our society into their Dar-al-Islam. Therefore, they are settlers.

Much of this street violence I mentioned is directed exclusively against non-Muslims, forcing many native people to leave their neighbourhoods, their cities, their countries. Moreover, Muslims are now a swing vote not to be ignored.

The second thing you need to know is the importance of Mohammed the prophet. His behaviour is an example to all Muslims and cannot be criticized. Now, if Mohammed had been a man of peace, let us say like MK Ghandi and Mother Theresa wrapped in one, there would be no problem. But Mohammed was a warlord, a mass murderer, a paedophile, and had several marriages - at the same time. Islamic tradition tells us how he fought in battles, how he had his enemies murdered and even had prisoners of war executed. Mohammed himself slaughtered the Jewish tribe of Banu Qurayza. If it is good for Islam, it is good. If it is bad for Islam, it is bad.

Let no one fool you about Islam being a religion. Sure, it has a god, and a here-after, and 72 virgins. But in its essence Islam is a political ideology. It is a system that lays down detailed rules for society and the life of every person. Islam wants to dictate every aspect of life. Islam means 'submission'. Islam is not compatible with freedom and democracy, because what it strives for is sharia. If you want to compare Islam to anything, compare it to communism or national-socialism, these are all totalitarian ideologies.

Now you know why the British Intelligentsia called Islam 'the most retrograde force in the world', and why he compared Mein Kampf to the Quran. The public has wholeheartedly accepted the Palestinian narrative, and sees Israel as the aggressor. I have lived in this country and visited it dozens of times. I support Israel. 

First, because it is the Jewish homeland after two thousand years of exile up to and including Auschwitz; second because it is a democracy, and third because Israel is our first line of defense.

This tiny country is situated on the fault line of jihad, frustrating Islam's territorial advance. Israel is facing the front lines of jihad, like Kashmir, Kosovo, the Philippines, Southern Thailand, Darfur in Sudan, Lebanon, and Aceh in Indonesia .. Israel is simply in the way. The same way West-Berlin was during the Cold War.

The war against Israel is not a war against Israel. It is a war against the West. It is jihad. Israel is simply receiving the blows that are meant for all of us. If there would have been no Israel, Islamic imperialism would have found other venues to release its energy and its desire for conquest. Thanks to Israeli parents who send their children to the army and lay awake at night, parents in Europe and America can sleep well and dream, unaware of the dangers looming.

Many in Europe argue in favour of abandoning Israel in order to address the grievances of our Muslim minorities. But if Israel were, God forbid, to go down, it would not bring any solace to the West It would not mean our Muslim minorities would suddenly change their behaviour, and accept our values. 

On the contrary, the end of Israel would give enormous encouragement to the forces of Islam. They would, and rightly so, see the demise of Israel as proof that the West is weak, and doomed. The end of Israel would not mean the end of our problems with Islam, but only the beginning. It would mean the start of the ultimate battle for world domination.

 If they can get Israel, they can get everything. So-called journalists volunteer to label all critics of Islamization as a 'right-wing extremists' or 'racists'. In my country, the Netherlands, 60 percent of the population now sees the mass immigration of Muslims as the number one policy mistake since World War II. And another 60 percent sees Islam as the biggest threat. 

Yet there is a greater danger than terrorist attacks, the scenario of America as the last man standing. The lights may go out in Europe faster than you can imagine. An Islamic Europe means a Europe without freedom and democracy, an economic wasteland, an intellectual nightmare, and a loss of military might for America - as its allies will turn into enemies, enemies with atomic bombs. With an Islamic Europe, it would be up to America alone to preserve the heritage of Rome, Athens, and Jerusalem ....

Dear friends, liberty is the most precious of gifts. My generation never had to fight for this freedom, it was offered to us on a silver platter, by people who fought for it with their lives. 

All throughout Europe, American cemeteries remind us of the young boys who never made it home, and whose memory we cherish. My generation does not own this freedom; we are merely its custodians. We can only hand over this hard-won liberty to Europe 's children in the same state in which it was offered to us.

 We cannot strike a deal with mullahs and imams. Future generations would never forgive us. We cannot squander our liberties. We simply do not have the right to do so.


We have to take the necessary action now to stop this Islamic/Semitic stupidity from destroying the free world that we know.


Saturday, 2 September 2017

India the golden sparrow again

THE STORY OF THE SPARROW by Raymond Federman


On a beautiful winter day in Siberia, encouraged by the warm rays of the sun in a clear blue sky, a little sparrow left the security of his nest to fly and frolic in the air, but the 40 below zero temperature quickly overcame the imprudent bird who fell to the ground, frozen, and found himself buried in the snow where he would certainly have died in an instant. But by chance a cow trotted by at that moment, and at the very spot where the sparrow was struggling for his last breath, she dropped a large soft cow-dung on top of the bird. The warmth of this dung-bath resuscitated the moribund sparrow. He was so happy, he raised his head out of the cow-shit and started to twitter joyfully, which drew the attention of a wandering homeless cat who delicately pulled the sparrow out of the shit and devoured him.
The moral of this story: 

Your enemy is not necessarily the one who shits on your head.

 Your friend, however, is not necessarily the one who pulls you out of the shit

 And besides, one should never twitter when one is buried in shit.

You will feel why I writing this story? This is blog of demonetisation / reforms and not some motivation session. 

For better understanding replace the following in the above story

sparrow with the general public , the so called aam aadmi, basically people like us

40 below zero degrees temprature with black money,corruption and inflation.

 cow dung with demonetisation, GST, linking of aadhar card with Pan No.

 twittering of sparrow with the whining by all who got shortchanged and caught with their pants down due to demonetisation.

 the homeless cat with the opposition parties and self styled economist who only worried about themselves for political mileage

if you still have problems in understanding the meaning of this story in my blog then obviously this blog is not for you

Decide now  " we want to be a  sparrow saved but ultimately becoming food for the cat or a sparrow flying even higher


Now let us talk Demonetisation 




Post 8th November 2016 India saw birth of many self styled Economist. They had every possible criticism of demonetisation. Across all political parties and Award Wapsi Gang and Libtards reacted as if it is end of country. They tried every possible gimmick to turn common man on street to build narrative against PM but failed miserably 

Lately RBI came out with report that 99% of notes back in system. As if these critics ere waiting for this opportunity they started their best past time" propaganda against Mr Modi and RBI


 Critics of demonetisation make two major arguments against it. One, that it was expensive, ill-timed, unnecessary. Second, that it did not root out black money and the move has failed since all the money has come back. There is one major counter argument to this. 


First let us check these verified figures by PIB 



Quantum jump in Enforcement actions based on Demonetisation data:
Searches 
·         158% increase in number of searches (from 447 to 1152 groups)
·         106% increase in seizures (from Rs. 712 crore to Rs.1469 crore)
·         38% increase in admission of undisclosed income (from Rs.11,226 crore to Rs. 1,54,96 crore)
       Surveys
·         183% increase in surveys (from 4422 to 12520)
·         44% increase in undisclosed income detected (from Rs. 9654 crore to Rs. 13920 crore)

18 lakh suspect cases were identified through use of data analytics where cash transactions did not appear to be in line with the tax profile of depositors.
 The exercise has also unearthed large number of persons and clusters having suspect transactions.

14,000 properties of more than Rs.1 crore each where persons have not even filed Income Tax Returns.  The investigations are in progress.

The number of e-returns of Individual taxpayers filed till 5th August, 2017  increased to 2.79 crore from 2.22 crore returns filed during the corresponding period of last year, 

This is registering an increase of about 57 lakh returns (25.3%). 

  The total number of all returns (electronic + paper) filed during the entire Financial Year 2016-17 was 5.43 crore which is 17.3% more than the returns filed during FY 2015-16.
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Collection of Advance Tax under Personal Income Tax (i.e. other than Corporate Tax) as on 05.08.2017 showed a growth of about 41.79% over the corresponding period in F.Y

 Collection of Self-Assessment Tax under Personal Income Tax showed a growth of 34.25% over the corresponding period in F.Y. 2016-2017.


Fifty-six lakh new individual tax payers, a 34 per cent jump in self-assessment tax by individuals give some hope on tax compliance.

 Inflows into mutual funds of Rs 1.7 lakh crore between November and June this year compared with Rs 9,160 crore is a glimpse on financialisation. 


The 350 crore transactions in debit and credit cards valued at Rs 6.6 lakh crore last fiscal was higher than the Rs 4 lakh crore a year ago is a sign of what's happening on digitisation. 

These are figures you must have read.but surprisingly no one discussing



Anil Bokil of Pune-based Artha Kranti Pratisthan, an early votary of demonetisation, has defended the benefits of the move. Bokil told that there was a huge ‘cash bubble’ and if demonetisaiton had not happened, India would have been hit like the 2008 subprime crisis in US. 


 Now let  us understand what has demonetisation done to money hoarders

Night of November 8th proved that Mr Modi under estimated the brains of Indians so well fed by corruption. This is gift of Congress to India. Exchange of notes at rate as high as 40%, gold selling at 75k per 10 gms and real estate deals.

Yes due to few corrupt bank officers demonetisation took a jolt. The black money just changed hands. 

Now let us see what happened then. HNI and others sitting on exchanged notes had a sigh of relief. 

" OK we lost 40% of our wealth but we still have 60% intact new notes"

Now the situation is they are having sleepless nights. why?

They cannot use this currency to buy any luxury item as the report goes to government

They cannot afford to take international travel. Every travel is being monitored on amount paid on tickets and currency exchange

Real estate is in bad state. And RERA and NITI AAYOG decision to reduce stamp duty further dim their chance of investing in real estate

Gold norms in place. Poor guys who bought gold at such high price are already 50% down and that is also like nothing. The moment they go out to sell they being monitored

All transactions of converting black to white are under scanner. May it be through purchase of shares or routing through shell companies. Already 3 lac shell companies under scanner

To cut it short the money with them is only for shopping in a mall. Interestingly there also government gains as GST which cannot be claimed back by them as it is unaccounted money. That is huge if you see in long term

I know it is foolish to underestimate corruption in India  There would still be crooks who find ways to evade tax and generate black money. There is a huge army of people who thrive on advising people how to escape tax - consultants and auditors. India has a penal code, but that hasn't stopped rapes and killings. So, will it be with financial laws. 

But do not make mistake of underestimating Mr Narendra Modi. He has resolved to catch hold of black money and he will do so.



I still remember my meeting a banker from London who said

" UK needs demonetisation . Wish we had leader like Mr Modi'

And we have likes of Mr P Chidambaram whose government is world famous for corruption but still has guts to point finger at Mr Modi. I dare him. " EVEN IF 99% MONEY RETURNED TO SYSTEM THAT ITSELF WILL MAKE ECONOMY MOVE. AT LEAST THE MONEY IS NOT IN LOCKERS'

Demonetisation and GST are game changers for our economy which was on ventilator in 2014 when Mr Modi took oath as PM.

Just have patience and you will soon realise the upsurge in GDP and tax base in coming quarters



















Friday, 4 August 2017

Airbnb can be a boon for real talent



Roughly a decade ago two new “platform” companies burst out of California. The one that dominated the headlines was called Uber, which created a platform where with one touch of your phone you could summon a cab, direct the driver, pay the driver and rate the driver. It grew like a weed — as all kinds of people became taxi drivers in their spare time. But Uber made clear that its ultimate goal was self-driving cars.

The other was called Airbnb. It created a trust platform so efficient that people all over the world were ready to use it to rent out their spare bedrooms to total strangers. Airbnb is growing so fast that it’s now adding the equivalent of one entire Hilton hotel chain’s worth of rooms for rent each year.

But while Uber aspires to self-driving cars, Airbnb has a different goal: enabling what I call self-driving people.

And that’s why I won’t be surprised if in five years Airbnb is not only still the world’s biggest home rental service, but also one of the world’s biggest jobs platforms. You read that right. Very quietly Airbnb has been expanding its trust platform beyond enabling people to rent their spare rooms to allowing them to translate their passions into professions, and thereby empower more self-driving people.

Don’t worry: I don’t own stock in Airbnb. (Wish I could.) But I’ve been following it nearly from its inception through conversations with one of its founders, C.E.O. Brian Chesky, and I highlight the latest step in its evolution because I think it provides part of the answer to one of the most vexing societal questions we face today: Will machines and robots take all our jobs?

Answer: Only if we let them — and Airbnb is creating a platform to not let them. It all started with people who were renting rooms saying to their customers: “Hey, hope you enjoy the room. By the way, I’m also a great cook; would you like me to prepare a dinner party for you?” Or, “I’m an amateur historian; would you like me to give you a tour of the city?” Now this trend has just taken off.

“We created a garden and planted one plant — and that was home-sharing,” explained Chesky over breakfast in San Francisco. “And now we’re seeing what other things can grow in this garden.”

To see what’s growing, go to Airbnb’s site and click not on “homes” but on “experiences.” You’ll find an endless smorgasbord of people turning their passion into profit and their inner artisan into second careers.

Take for instance the team of Luca & Lorenzo. They explain in endearing broken English: “We are 100 percent Italian food lovers; we were used to cook with our grandmothers since we were child. We continued to have this passion through the years, so it makes sense founded our company Lovexfood.”

For $152 a person, they will take seven people visiting Florence, Italy, on a trip to “make pasta from scratch in the woods outside the city” in an “old house … surrounded by a garden with aromatic plants. We are between the hills where is produced the famous Chianti wine.”

In Dublin, for $85 a person, John will introduce you to low-light photography and then take you on an evening tour of some of the city’s most interestingly lit locations, ending in his studio, where he’ll “help you to edit and retouch your photographs, taking them to the next level for social media and print.”

In London, for $84 a person, you can learn in three hours how to “make a one-of-a-kind hat with a professional millinery designer,” Sarah, using “an array of feathers, flowers, lace and tulle.” A “traditional English breakfast complete with finger sandwiches and an assortment of cakes” is included.

For $35 a person, Lee Marvin will take five people in Havana on a tour of three-on-three neighborhood basketball games. “Christina” posted a message on his site on July 18, saying: “I signed my teenage son up for this & it was one of the best activities of the trip. It was supposed to end at 8 p.m. or so. Well, my son felt so welcomed that he & Lee Marvin’s gang hung out for several hours after they played basketball. They learned about each other’s lives, told jokes, talked sports and really bonded. Talk about a great emersion into the Cuban culture.” Also, not a bad way for a Cuban to earn $175 a night, minus Airbnb’s commission.

For $99 a person and five hours in Los Angeles, Antonio will teach your group how to “make a custom piñata with an esteemed pâper-maché artist” in the piñata district. Tools, “tamales and pan dulce” from Antonio’s favorite places are all included.

And for $37 each, Naky will take your group on a four-hour tour of Lisbon to “see the city through the eyes of an African immigrant.” You’ll explore “the African continent’s influence on the city and visit areas where African immigrants live, work, and play.” Naky is originally from Togo and has “a passion for history.”

No wonder Airbnb’s “experiences” site has grown tenfold this year.

Tourists visiting a foreign country try to understand the culture by going to a museum and viewing “art by dead people,” noted Chesky. “Why not learn how to make art yourself, taught by a living artist in that culture and immerse yourself in the artist’s world? These are experiences you can bring back with you!”

Chesky believes that the potential for Airbnb experiences could be bigger than home-sharing. I agree.

“The biggest asset in people’s lives is not their home, but their time and potential — and we can unlock that,” he explained. “We have these homes that are not used, and we have these talents that are not used. Instead of asking what new infrastructure we need to build, why don’t we look at what passions we can unlock? We can unlock so much economic activity, and this will unlock millions of entrepreneurs.”

When he retires, said Chesky, age 35, “I’d like to say that Airbnb created 100 million new entrepreneurs in the world.” I wouldn’t bet against him. Because the world is full of artisans and people with passions waiting to be unlocked.

In America, though, there is a surplus of fear and a poverty of imagination in the national jobs discussion today — because “all we are focusing on are the things that are going away,” said Chesky. “We need to focus on what’s coming. Do we really think we’re living in the first era in history where nothing will ever again be created by humans for humans, only by machines? Of course not. It’s that we’re not talking about all of these human stories.”

Indeed, the beauty of this era is that you don’t need to wait for Ford to come to your town with a 25,000-person auto factory. Anyway, that factory is now 2,500 robots and 1,000 people. The future belongs to communities that learn to leverage their unique attributes, artisans and human talent.

There is no Eiffel Tower in Louisville, Ky., but there are amazing bourbon distilleries popping up all over, creating myriad tourist opportunities; there are no pyramids in Detroit, but there is a bountiful history of Motown music and all kinds of artists now creating boutique concerts and tours for visitors to experience it.

Is this the only answer for the American middle-class jobs challenge? Of course not. There is no one answer. That’s the point.

We have to do 50 things right to recreate that broad middle class of the ’50s and ’60s, and platforms like Airbnb’s are just one of them. (Having universal health care to create a safety net under all of these budding entrepreneurs would be another.) But you have to be inspired by how many people are now finding joy and income by mining their passions.

“A tourist is someone who does things that locals who live there never do,” said Chesky. Airbnb’s experiences platform is now enabling visitors to live like locals — even though they’re guests and, in the process, enrich the local community and create new employment. Any town can play.

So much of what companies did in the past, concluded Chesky, “was unlocking natural resources to build the stuff we wanted.” Today’s new platforms are unlocking human potential to “be the people we wanted.”


Now if we start this in a big way in India imagine how we can convert skills of our youth and rural India to money making.

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Imagine teaching Kite flying in Gujarat for $10 per person

Exposure to Ayurveda healing in Kerala

Visit to Cobras in Tamil Nadu with a group and photographs

Bollywood acting classes in film city for any amount you demand




Karnataka cuisine  courses for delicious take home appetite



To learn indigenous art form that developed in Bengal came to be known as Bengal Pat. 

I can go on and on.....................................

Have no words for the opportunity  waiting to explode  

Hope it happens. Let people follow their passion and make money. A dream life 


 portion of Blog 
Courtesy

Thomas L. Friedman, The New York Times

Sunday, 30 July 2017

Love is all about giving





We  a group of few friends in our Gym. All of us will meet over coffee before the workout. Discuss all from Economy to politics to even personal issues

One of our very close friends was going through some family problems was always in an upset mood.      Most of the times she will walk in she would start with complaints. " My husband is always shouting at me. He never wants to visit my parents. He is worst thing that happened to me "

Unaware that she is discussing it in public where only few will understand or show her right path. Most will derive pleasure out of it or try to show sympathy to gain good points in her eyes

" Oh poor girl I feel so sooty for you " ,  one will say. " why don't you walk out of his life. Take children away ". She added

" Go to police. Emotional harassment is as bad as physical . your one complaint will set him right.  जब police का डंडा पड़ेगा तो सीधा हो जाएगा "। some other will advice

When me and my very close friend saw things out of control we asked her to meet in evening some place else. She came & shared, cried , abused her spouse. We gave her all time without interruption.  Then other friend of mine in a very soft manner asked her few questions.

Do you give any space to your husband?

Do you feel bad when he uses bad language for your mother ?

Do you own your spouse or he is also an independent soul ?

Can he take decisions on his own which you as feminist demand all the time?

If your Son shouts back at you sometimes do you abuse him & thinks of throwing him out of the house?

I was amazed listening to all this. She got confused and started to think. Think because she was shown other side of coin.

" I am sure he is meeting some other woman. I check his phone but he deletes it all. " should I take all this " ? She asked

My other friend told her something which gave me life lessons too

Look you always have choice to walk out  or complain to police. But can you follow few things for six months  before taking this decision.

Stop answering him back. Ignore his anger. Care for him but become indifferent to his activities. Stop checking his mobile or calling him now & then to know what he is up to. We humans have tendency to get attracted to new things. But with same intensity we get bored of them. Concentrate on yourself. Spend few hours just with yourself. Stop blaming or look down upon yourself if he is seeing someone else. That is his problem not yours

Start to treat him like you treat your son. If your son shouts at you , you forgive him thinking he is in bad mood or is a child. Give your husband same benefit of doubt. Think when you get new toy for your younger one & then snatch it away from him what will he do?  He will crave more for it. But when you give it to him he will get bored of it in two days

Similarly if your husband is seeing someone else & you try & be detective all the time he will crave for her more. You give him complete freedom but be indifferent to him he will start to get bored. Just be normal to him. No extra love pouring neither any abuse Just be what you were before marriage. Stop revolving your life around him.

" But why don't I take separate apartment. Then he can do what he wants" she replied

" No. stay there. Go through this grill. It is not easy to ignore but after few days you will start to enjoy this space. If you move out it is running away from your weakness

Trust me. She exactly followed her. Wasn't easy for her in beginning. But the husband started to notice the change. " why isn't she calling me?  Why isn't she checking on me". " why is she so cool & composed"

Things have changed completely. Now her husband loves her even more  More than love he respects her to stand with him even when he was not honest & good to her. The kids are lot more happier & confident. They have started believing in relationships.

Feminism is not about me, myself or how dare you behave like this with me. True Faminism is compassion and try to understand the other soul for his behaviour. I am not saying that continue relationship if you are suffering. But atleast try & give your best before closing the chapter. Very easy to walk out or go to police. The same people who advised you will be nowhere after 6 months & you may be regretting " did I give my best"

We are not America where we call police on every domestic physical or mental torture. Imagine if your kids start to call police if you shout st them ( as in US).  A true friend will always want to make your house even if she has to show your shortcomings rather than provoking you to move out

Give it a chance. Change your self before expecting others to change. If that does not help other options are always available.

Why I wrote this blog today?  Coz few so called feminists forced police to intervene & that too on social media. The house is broken for ever. Many families affected. I ask them for how long they will leave their own family & share loneliness of this women. Honestly I feeling bad for her.  She may not understand it today but over time she might read my blog.

Relationships isn't about owning each other. It is about respect & understanding. Compromise & compassion. Give space to each other. Give positive vibrations. Stop discussing your personal issues with everyone. Stop complaining. Life is all about live & let live 

Thursday, 27 July 2017

Police: harassment or support ?

It was around 2 in afternoon when my hubby had an urgent work & wanted to take out his car. As he approached there was a car parked on the gate hence impossible to take out his car. He waited & waited losing his patience. Then came a lady who had parked the car & very casually sat inside. He confronted her as to how she can park the car on gate ?

Then the verbal abuse started. Amazingly instead of apologising she started shouting. As it haoiens there was war of words. Then she said I had told the  guard that I am parking it here which the guard denied. I tried to handle but her abuses went non stop

I as a human also told her now we need to call police. She tried to run away. But as I tried to stop her she scratched my arms & hands with her nails & it started to bleed. That was it and we called the police. She trying to act smarter also called police. After 45 minutes police came and asked us to come to saket police station.

As soon as we reached we realised that they had already played some game. Anyways we wrote the complaint which even they did. I told police I need to get Medical report for her injuries
The police first trying to discourage me said you will have to go to AIIMS which is 10 km one way. I said fine I will not back out

We asked them to send a constable with us. But he said it is not required and we will collect report on our own. When leaving the police guy called me and said ask your husband to apologise else he will land in trouble as other party is female. I said even I am a woman

Sitting in car I told my hubby let it be. Let's finish this case here. We have more important work to do    
We again went inside & spoke to the couple that it is waste of time let's end the case here. But the woman was relentless & said I will make sure I teach you guys a lesson. I was shocked. I was one who got injured. She was one who did mistake yet she was sounding like law is on her pocket. That raised doubts in our mind.

Reaching AIIMS the guy refused to give me medical report that a constable has to accompany me. We kept on calling the police guy but he did not take our call. Frustrated we went back to Saket police station but this time we decided to record all conversation. Strange enough the couple was still sitting in police station as if they knew all there & were planning something big

On confronting the police officer why he did not sent constable with us he first denied there was any need but then admitted & then started misbehaving. Fortunately we recorded all this on video camera.  When he realised this it looked as if all colour of his face went away. We realised he actually did not want us to get medical report as this would have made case in our favour.

We then asked him copy of our complaint for which he took one hour. Hesitating & trying to evade. All this is on video. They treated us badly and was apparently clear that they had decided to protect other side.

After taking the copy of report I went to a private nursing home to get my report done.

Now this is state of affairs of police station. Harassment & no help. One who has contacts wins it all. I will not be surprised if she will lodge a case of sexual assault on my hubby as our laws favour only woman even she lying & cunning

Will post video clips soon.

I ask HMO India is this the way a common citizen is treated who has no contacts? Is police only for VIP & people who can bribe them? No wonder poor do not get justice in their life time. The entire police station knows I have their video. Going by their behaviour I am scared they might try to hurt me and my family

No words. Completely disgusted. When guys who have to protect us act otherwise only God can save us